Looking for sex partner requires a delicate approach. You want to keep a distance in the relationship, but at the same time, you want to get intimate.
Know your fantasy
Your action to find a sex partner must have come from your sexual fantasy. If you are looking for warm love, a partner that will look after for you when you are down, what you seek is a lover. Know your sexual fantasy very well, and more importantly, think how you are going to tell your potential sex partner about it.
Maintain neutral look when you first meet your date. Even if what you seek is a sexual encounter, avoid vulgar approach. Prefer subtle words, but somehow still manage to refer to your fantasy. For example, if your thing is BDSM, try to ask her if she doesn’t mind a little pain during the intercourse. Gradually open your kinky minds, and let your partner have the chance to speak their mind. Do not be the only person who speaks during the conversation.
If you want to ask her to do it in an open place, convince her first that you know some safe place. Dogging gold coast, at a public park, or in a car during traffic; are all ideas that you may get in mind, but unfold them gradually. One success leads to another. Pick the safest open place first and prove to your partner that you can handle things.
Explain the boundary
Separating feelings and sexual urge may get complicated. You or your potential partner can fall in love in the future. Tell him/her that you are open to the idea (you should), but what you need for now is a different thing. You have your reasons, and your date deserves the same chance.
Make sure to be clear from the very beginning with what you want. You do not need to go into details about your reasons, though. As soon as your date shows disagreement or a sign of being condescending to you, go for another one. Do not bother to adjust yourself at this stage. It is just either you match with your date or not. Bear in mind again, you go on a date for the practical purpose only, and not looking for wife/husband.
Gentle first, rough later
The sub-title is figuratively speaking, of course. Always ask for your partner’s consent before doing anything ‘creative,’ or ‘rough.’ The worst that can happen in ‘sexual partnership’ is that you bump into a scammer. He/she will use anything that is different from your agreed terms to be against you. That choke-mark for wild sex you both have done with consent, in the previous night, can turn into a proof of sexual assault. Make sure you know your partner pretty well first before advancing further.…